When you were twelve or fourteen or sixteen years old, chances are the guys you knew loved to play video games. This was fine and this was expected. But, just as flowers lose their blooms so too are guys supposed to stop playing video games as they reach a certain age. I’m no expert about at what point this change is supposed to happen, but if you are interested in a guy and he cancels getting together with you because he has to meet up with his buddhies to play World of Warcraft (WoW), then you have a guy who plays video games too much. I truly hope that you never learn about WoW, for it is a death knell for a relationship (just as Dungeons and Dragons was for an earlier generation).
WoW is clearly in its own class as far as video games go. You can do your research on this or you can trust me. I recommend just taking my word for it because life is best enjoyed with as little knowledge of WoW as possible. If you come across a guy who plays WoW don’t bother going any further with the relationship. Your only chance is if you play as well. In that case you, as a level 10 Mage can make sweet computer-mediated love with your level 10 Paladin boyfriend.
Beyond WoW players, it is a little less clear at which point you have reason to be concerned. If he plays solitaire or some other trite, easy-to-pick-up game while he is at work or at home to kill time, then you are probably fine. Chances are he has perspective on where video games fit in his life. If he has an old Sony Playstation 2 or X-Box sitting in the corner gathering dust, then you are probably fine. Just be sure to check the amount of dust… (Note: if he has an original, well-preserved Nintendo, then watch out — those machines were designed to break in 1998 so he must be doing something unnatural to keep it working.) However, if he bought a brand-new Playstation 3 when it first came out, along with games and the extra controller for over $800, then beware.
The bottom line is, if you are looking for a boy who loves his toys then by all means go ahead and try your luck. But if you are looking for a guy who will treasure you and keep his hands off his controllers then back away slowly. Don’t let him sense your fear. Remember, video game players are finely-tuned killing machines, at least against pixelated threats.